Zis-N-Zat From Pastor Asher
God is my conscience, Jesus lives in my heart… this blog is about what I see, what I think, what I do and how I serve God
Approximate Notes for Father’s Day Message; 15 June 2014
14 June 2014
Posted by on Scriptures for this Sunday: Luke 15:11-32
You can read these Scriptures here: NIV
Affirmation of Faith: UMH 887
Hymns for this Sunday
UMH 554 – All Praise to Our Redeeming Lord
verses 1,2,3, 6
!!!!!!(use melody UMH 57)
UMH 695 – O Lord, May Church and Home Combine
!!!!!!!(use melody UMH 378)
Today is Father’s Day, and today is set aside to celebrate our fathers. It is a day of recognition. It is a day of remembering the contributions of our fathers, past and present. It is also about preparing future fathers, something that the Church should be diligent about not only on Father’s Day but every day of the year. It is a day to highlight fatherhood and the parenting done by men in all of our lives. Some of that parenting was done by our biological fathers and some of that parenting was done by men who mentored us somewhere along our life’s journeys.
Father’s Day is a happy day filled with ties, all you can eat buffets and mugs boldly proclaiming, “The World’s Best Dad!”
Father’s Day is a day to honor men who function as mentors to many young people thus becoming “adoptive” fathers to these youths.
Father’s Day is also a sad reminder that many fathers in our society are physically, emotionally, financially, and spiritually absent from the lives of their children and from the families that they started. (“It is all fun and games until you have to get up at 2 am to change a diaper.”)
As I stand before you today, June 15, 2014, I am very aware that there is a reason why God made it necessary to have both a male and a female to create and nurture a new life. Fathers offer a unique and irreplaceable contribution to the development of their children. While single moms are capable of successfully raising their children (I am an illustration of that), we know that life works best when there is also a male role model, preferably fulfilled by the father present in the life of a child, as they grow, mature and discover their place in the world. As a society, by and large we no longer understand why it is important for children to have both a mom and a dad.
It is complicated being a parent. It involves intimacy and distance, it involves order and chaos, it includes safety and taking appropriate risks. Being a father means a need for immediacy, and patience to wait an extra moment to intervene or respond to a cry at a time of need. Being a parent involves appropriate distance so that children can learn problem-solving, patience, and self-reliance.
A huge part of being a father is about mirroring God’s movements in his life as well as nurturing a child’s experiences and uniqueness. It is about the intimacy of care and mentoring, and privacy and space of
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self-reflection (“have you thought about…”)
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self-creation (“what do you think you should do….”) and
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emotional growth.