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Approximate Notes for Sunday’s Message; May 10, 2015; Mother’s Day


Last week sons, daughters and husbands across our country were busy selecting presents for their moms ahead of this year’s Mother’s Day celebration.

The celebration of the Mother’s Day holiday is most widely spread in the USAmerica because it has roots in our country. But Mother’s Day, unlike those all-American dates of Thanksgiving and July 4, is also celebrated in some other countries. In many countries, religious or cultural holidays revolving around women and families have evolved into their own celebrations of motherhood. In other countries, this holiday has been imported with USAmericans who settled there.


The first attempts to establish a “Mother’s Day” holiday in the USAmerica came from women’s peace groups shortly after the American Civil War. Their common goal and desire was to support each other as they grieved their sons who perished in the American Civil War. {From Jeremiah 31:15: “A voice is heard in Ramah,  mourning and great weeping, Rachel weeping for her children and refusing to be comforted, because they are no more.”}

In our country, those whose moms are still alive spend Mother’s Day bestowing flowers, gifts and heartfelt sentiments upon their moms. Those who lost their moms reflect on what they miss and on the effect that their moms had on the direction of their lives.


Each of us has a unique and complicated relationship with our mothers. Each of our relationships with our moms is probably the most significant in our lives; after all she was the first person we met just seconds after birth! Because our mothers are human, not all of them are perfect; because all of us are human, we make motherhood challenging. In other words: IT’S COMPLICATED. That is why Mother’s Day is a perfect opportunity to reflect on our personal relationships with our moms, the role they play in our lives, and to recognize and honor their contribution to what we have become so far and hope to become in the future.

In a perfect world, our moms make sure to be around and available to their children. There are countless recitals, and soccer games, parties, field trips as well as unplanned, spontaneous moments. All those planned and unplanned moments strung together throughout our childhood built up our confidence and understanding of self-worth as well as defined our path and trajectory for the future. Some moments are joyful, some moments are filled with frustration, and in their entirety these moments with our moms build the foundation of our lives.

Recent events in Baltimore gave us a glimpse of what it means to be a mom and a mother.


On April 27, 2015, as riots were raging in Baltimore, Mrs. Toya Graham was filmed taking her son out of the Baltimore riots before he could get in trouble with the law. Her actions have been praised by many including law makers, and Baltimore’s Police Commissioner.

My understanding of what happened is that Ms. Toya Graham saw her 16 year old son, Michael, wearing a hat and a mask, intent on throwing rocks and other objects at the police. Local TV station WMAR-TV captured Mrs. Graham on camera taking out her son away from the fighting. She was yelling at her son, telling him “Are you kidding me?” “Take the mask off” and “Get over here.”

I was surprised to hear how much judgment there is IN MEDIA towards this lady, this mom, who went to get her son and get him off the streets of Baltimore as the tensions were heating up. We don’t know the whole story of their relationship, but from the video that was broadcast and also went viral on the youtube, it is difficult not to be moved by her love, by her fear, by her determination to get him out of harm’s way and to safety.

We were given the opportunity to witness an intimate moment between mom and her child and for me what I saw is a sign of hope and an illustration of tough love. Her intention was not to publicly shame or to embarrass him in front of his friends. She was not beating him, nor was she trying to get the mother of the year award. She had only one thing in mind at that moment, and it was simply getting to her child and making sure that he was out of harm’s way. She was teaching him that what he was doing was not productive nor was it right. I pray that this young man, Michael Singleton, understands all this and that he will forever remember this day and then one day tell the story to his grandchildren about how his mother cared enough to show up and drag his sorry behind out of harm’s way. I cannot help but wonder what would happen if ALL mothers and grandmothers showed up and dragged their sons home, those with guns and those without (Wooliver). How different would that day (April 27, 2015) be in our memories and recollections?


Our mothers play a huge role in who we have become and what we make with our lives. For most of us, our relationship with our mom is one that approximates our relationship with God. Those who refuse to accept disciplining from their mom, will most likely turn a deaf ear towards God as well. In most of our lives, it is our mothers that teach us to recognize the presence of the Holy and to rejoice in the Holy Spirit of God around us (Luke 1:47). It is from our mom’s that we learn about being gracious and merciful (Luke 1:50), it is from our moms we learn about humility, and the difference between ambition and hubris (Luke 1:51).


So today, whether you are celebrating mother’s day with your mom or with your children, or reflecting on memories of your mom, I encourage you to reflect on what it means to be a mom and how our moms make this world a better place.

Works Cited

Wooliver, Tammy Lewis. “Facebook Timeline Post .” 29 April 2015. Facebook Post. 29 04 2015. <https://www.facebook.com/Revnawny/posts/10200481801363320?pnref=story&gt;.


One response to “Approximate Notes for Sunday’s Message; May 10, 2015; Mother’s Day

  1. Anonymous 10 May 2015 at 7:31 am

    You do a wonderful message always. Thank you
    Betty Goldbach

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